There’s a great article in the Art of Manliness blog on how suburban life can destroy your manliness. In it the author argues:
“The danger that living in the suburbs is simply that there is no danger…it’s completely safe. Constant and complete control is a silent, but deadly killer.”
and:
“maybe the truest calling of man lies in [...]
Just received this comment from a reader:
“I’m a doctoral student, and thinking about writing about fathers of young children (0-5) especially those getting more involved with their care. I’m wondering whether men these days include their caregiving of children as a major part of their identities or not. I’d love your thoughts on this.
Is religion [...]
A bunch of men have responded positively to this site. Others seem uncomfortable about it.
Some laugh at the idea, stripping the whole notion of manhood down to one organ: ‘Oh, showing off your manhood eh? How big is your manhood anyway?’
Another friend has warned me against doing the site… saying I should be careful not [...]
Ok lads, I’m interested in stuff that’s had the biggest influence on you becoming a man!
What are the Top 5 books/films/plays etc that have had the biggest impact on you? Ones that have made you the man you are? And who was the hero/role model in the story?
Toby C’s texts that changed him:
The Ages of [...]
Recently, someone wrote this to me:
“All I know for sure is that [my partner] depends on me in certain key ways (as I depend on her in others) and that this strength she relies on in me represents my manliness and a crucial part of my identity. Those who dispute the existence of this dependence [...]
I love this story in Steve Biddulph’s Manhood:
“Our system has one outstanding way of holding men in place – it’s called a mortgage. When you go for that vital interview at the bank you walk out with a a hundred thousand dollars. It’s a miracle, but something else happens, something they don’t tell you about. [...]
Thanks for sharing your story Step.
My daughter is now 8 years old, and I’ve brought her up half time since parting ways with her mother about 5 years ago. 50/50 care was a given for me even though it was hard. At least I have always worked part time so it was not too hard [...]
I have my 2-year-old son by myself every Wednesday (today) for our ‘Daddy Day’. It’s a great thing to do. Without it, I don’t think I’d know him half as well and it’s (mostly) a heap of fun. We roam around town and the countryside causing mischief and mayhem, often with our two dogs in [...]
I’ve often cone across literature that suggests men don’t truly become men until they’re 35. In fact I read a lovely quote from Cezanne the other day who said, “Until the age of forty I lived a bohemian: I wasted my life. It was only later that I developed a taste for work.”
I find this [...]
Ok, here’s some things I reckon men want. I want to build on this list as time goes on, but it’s a quick start:
Feeling useful
Show me a happy man and I’ll show you a man who feels like they’re a useful part of society.
Future plans / forward momentum
We all want to feel like we’re moving [...]