http://www.tutapata.com/manhood How men tick and what we want Mon, 08 Mar 2010 09:04:50 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en There's a great article in the Art of Manliness blog on how suburban life can destroy your manliness. In it the author argues: "The danger that living in the suburbs is simply that there is no danger…it’s completely safe. Constant and complete control is a silent, but deadly killer." and: "maybe the truest ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/03/deadly-suburbs-wild-nature/ Just received this comment from a reader: "I’m a doctoral student, and thinking about writing about fathers of young children (0-5) especially those getting more involved with their care. I’m wondering whether men these days include their caregiving of children as a major part of their identities or not. I’d love ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/02/thoughts-on-fatherhood/ A bunch of men have responded positively to this site. Others seem uncomfortable about it. Some laugh at the idea, stripping the whole notion of manhood down to one organ: 'Oh, showing off your manhood eh? How big is your manhood anyway?' Another friend has warned me against doing the site... saying ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/02/what-is-this-manhood-thing-anyway/ Ok lads, I'm interested in stuff that's had the biggest influence on you becoming a man! What are the Top 5 books/films/plays etc that have had the biggest impact on you? Ones that have made you the man you are? And who was the hero/role model in the story? Toby C's texts ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/12/top-5-texts-that-have-changed-your-life/ Recently, someone wrote this to me: "All I know for sure is that [my partner] depends on me in certain key ways (as I depend on her in others) and that this strength she relies on in me represents my manliness and a crucial part of my identity. Those who dispute ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/11/manliness-strength-and-the-new-androgyny/ I love this story in Steve Biddulph's Manhood: "Our system has one outstanding way of holding men in place - it's called a mortgage. When you go for that vital interview at the bank you walk out with a a hundred thousand dollars. It's a miracle, but something else happens, something ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/11/whats-a-testicle-worth/ Thanks for sharing your story Step. My daughter is now 8 years old, and I've brought her up half time since parting ways with her mother about 5 years ago.  50/50 care was a given for me even though it was hard.  At least I have always worked part time so ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/11/daddy-day-2/ I have my 2-year-old son by myself every Wednesday (today) for our 'Daddy Day'. It's a great thing to do. Without it, I don't think I'd know him half as well and it's (mostly) a heap of fun. We roam around town and the countryside causing mischief and mayhem, often ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/11/daddy-day/ I’ve often cone across literature that suggests men don’t truly become men until they’re 35. In fact I read a lovely quote from Cezanne the other day who said, “Until the age of forty I lived a bohemian: I wasted my life. It was only later that I developed a ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/11/start-of-manhood/ Ok, here's some things I reckon men want. I want to build on this list as time goes on, but it's a quick start: Feeling useful Show me a happy man and I'll show you a man who feels like they're a useful part of society. Future plans / forward momentum We all want ... http://www.tutapata.com/manhood/10/what-men-want/